If you dare do it, then you must dare to admit to it.

At the steps of the Duomo, in Milan, I, dressed in my maroon jumpsuit-shorts, was turned away entry.

I, the Chinese Asian, dressed in a tube top and shorts, was told "sorry, your attire is not suitable for entry."

I have no problem with the fact that my attire was not suitable for entry into the Church. I respect that. But what I had a major problem was the fact that the man who denied me entry, readily offered shawls for other inappropriately attired WHITE people to cover up and enter. Two black women were also turned away.

If I could speak Italian, I would tell him in the face that he should not stand in front of the church and insult the religion of his nation. I would tell him that he should be ashamed that he should stand in front of a place of worship and insult God. For is it not true that God made us all equal?
How dare he stand there, clearly a racist, and declare himself a Catholic? For shame.

When my bro-in-law went to ask Mr. Racist why he turned me away, he muttered that he turned anyone who was inappropriately attired, away. Please, God gave me eyes to see. And I stood in front of the church and saw you insult God with your actions. You may deny it, but God would have witnessed it. So, only you have to explain that to him if you ever make it to the Gates of Heaven. And if you do, I hope you will be denied entry because you're inappropriately unconscionable. And you're an eejit. But then again, that would be discriminatory. But who cares, you're still an eejit.

On a separate note, would I be a bad friend if I have tried to stop a friend's financial source from continuing because I think it 1) insults her bf 2) causes her to not be independent 3) "cheapens" her?

If she has a bf, but another man gives her money to sustain her, does it not insult her bf? Obviously her bf has no knowledge of it.

Is there a difference between a man giving you money voluntarily and you asking for it, as if , it is as of right? (and we are not talking about married couples here)
To me there is. There is a difference because if he gives it to you voluntarily, he wants to. If you ask for it, it means your friendship/companionship has a price. It shows that you think "because I am your friend/companion/bed buddy, I deserve to be given something in return."

If someone gives you money to sustain you, and you lie to your bf, family and friends about it, that is very wrong. No, I am not judging you. You are entitled to do it. But, why are you afraid to admit it?

If I hint at the fact that you are clawing on to this man for financial reasons, and you get offended that I am calling you a gold digger, when you obviously are, I really am at my wits end.

If you are a beautiful, intelligent girl, why do you sell yourself at a small price every month just for materialistic goods?

You know the Chinese saying?

If you dare to do it, you must dare to admit to it.

three is the magic number

Yesterday I lied.
(oh, oh. Syazsy don't hate me!)

I lied to the BF's friend's(let's call him C) on-off gf (let's call her M).

I lied because I was put on the spot. I lied because frankly, I am not a big fan of M. I lied because I do not respect a girl who makes her bf call his friend, to ask them questions on his whereabouts. I do not fancy being put in a position where someone else's gf asks me "who was with you?" "was there another girl with you guys?" "was he alone or he came with someone?"

What am I? The chamber of secrets?

Firstly, I am not there to spy on your bf.
Secondly, I am not there to spy on your bf.
Thirdly, repeat all of the above. TWICE.

And frankly, if you have a problem with your bf hanging out with other girls, then you can secretly hide behind bushes and go spy on him yourself. And in all honesty, if your bf is the type whom you are suspicious of ALL the time, dump him. Get a better more improved model. Don't go preying on his friends. Or his friends' gf's.

You have troubles with him, you do not alert the whole world. It makes us uncomfortable. It makes us compelled to take sides. And if we DO have to take sides, its not a gender thing girl. I have to take C's side. I know him better, I am his friend. Not yours.

So if you ask me "So how many of you went out yesterday?"

The answer will always be THREE.

If you look down on me, does that make you greater?

I don't really remember what exactly that the BF and I were talking about last Friday when we were on the way to a birthday party, but he did relate a conversation he had with a captain that he was flying with just the day before.

Let's call this Captain N.

Capt N: Ish Ish, apalah nak jadi dengan kaum Melayu sekarang ni. Bartending Competition pun mereka boleh join dan menang! * said while reading an article in the newspaper and shaking his head disapprovingly*

Perplexed, I asked the BF, SO? He is entitled to his opinion. Much so when it is someone from his own race.

The BF then looks me in the eye, all serious, and said this :-

"This is the man who is married, but fools around with scores of flight attendants. This is the man who goes for holiday with his wife, and tells them that the boys are going to do "something else" besides shopping. And the something else is visiting prostitutes. This is the man who smokes and drinks.
A smoking, drinking womanizer is judging a man who is making an honest living? Who is to say this malay boy DRINKS? He might merely by making the drinks, as a job. He doesn't necessarily consume alcohol."

Classic case of "jaga tepi kain orang".

I told the BF, who was clearly agitated (he isn't a big fan of the captain), that people always find the need to look down on others or judge others. Because this made them feel better about themselves. If I point out your flaws, this would instantly make me a better Muslim/ Christian/ insert any other religion.

I have plenty of friends who approached me when I was 13 and told me that if I were not a Christian, I would burn in hell. And when I told my mother that, she told me to tell them "its okay. I would rather burn in hell for not being Christian, then stuck in heaven with someone like you!"

Amen to that.