Is it enough to just love a man?
Can his love tide you through everything?
Can his love tide you through emotional upheavals?
Religious turmoil?
Familial obligations?
Every time I think it's smooth sailing, that I am actually happy, I come to a dead end. If I look back, I see the bumps and humps I've overcome but all I have right now after all the hard work, is a dead end.
I see so many people cheering me on, all on the other side. But are these the people I WANT to cheer me on? What about those I've inadvertently left behind to pursue this journey? Why aren't they taking out the poms poms and giving me the support I need?
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I find it hypocritical when someone tells me they only date men of a certain religion. A friend said to me "I will never date a man who is not Christian. He does not have to go to church or be very religious. Religion is very important to me. I do not go to church but I pray and I listen to sermons."
Does that make sense to you?
Religion is important to her only to the point of, he needs to be Christian. He may not need to believe in Christianity, he may not need to practice Christianity, he may not need to go to church or say his prayers. It's okay as long as he is born Christian.
So, what was the point again? How is religion important to her? If it were important to you, it would matter if he is Christian merely by birth or if he were a practicing staunch Christian, right?
And if I myself am not very religious, when did religion become so important to me?
Most wars in history are started by men and their need to assert their religion (which of course ties up with greed and power). And so many of us say we're moderate, and so many of us say we are understanding and we live in harmony, but truly we harbor racism under our facades.
Why do so many people aspire and yearn for a something, which even if it were very flawed, is still a something which is better than another.
" Between fight and flight
Is the blind man's sight
And a choice that's right."
- Jewel, Standing Still.
Hi,
ReplyDeleteI used to go out with a Catholic girl who ended the relationship when she realised it was not going anywhere because she wont convert. I guess, each to his own as when it comes to religion, i just wont and will not say much. Its each to his or her own preference.
Mamat Melayu
I gotta agree with Mamat Melayu babe. But I've seen many non-Muslims converted to Islam just so they could get married. They don't mind because their Muslim partners don't really practise so they don't need to actually practise, which I don't agree with.
ReplyDeleteBut like Mamat Melayu said, to each his/her own. As for me, I make it a point never to date non Muslims because I already know what lies ahead, and I am just not religious enough to teach a convert to be a good Muslim.
I mean no offense, really. Take it with a pinch of salt ya. Good Luck!
IB: No offense taken babe!
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately in this country, conversion into Islam due to marriage is not a choice. If I love my man and I want to start a life with him, what can I do but to follow the law of the country?
As for not being religious enough to teach a convert to be a good Muslim, you can't TEACH someone to be a good Muslim, they have to embrace the religion by themselves. Faith and religion is a personal thing. Not to be taught or forced unto someone.
MM: To each is own is what I have always believed it. But in this country we are not allowed that choice if we fall in love with a Muslim man. Freedom to practise the religion that you choose should be a fundamental right. And doesn't it suck to know we have to let go of someone because we cannot adhere to the law of this country?